Have you ever wondered if your name shapes who you are? I’ve often wondered if I was Jessica or Jennifer or some other very common easy-to-pronounce 80s name, rather than Maresa, if I’d be a slightly different person than I am now.
Having an unusual name (and it’s not even that unusual!) means that it is mispronounced 99% of the time, which has been happening ever since I set foot in my Kindergarten classroom and still happens to this day in the office where I work.
The first few times my name is mispronounced, I will correct that person. But the endless cycle of people not remembering its proper pronunciation is exhausting. And so there comes a point when I stop correcting. When I begin to answer to “Marissa” or “Mar-eh-sa” or something in between. It’s then that I wish my name was something easy to remember – like Kristy. When I was little, I always wished my name was Kristy!
All that name-correcting and feeling self-conscious inevitably played a role in my self esteem growing up. If my name had been Kristy would I have been a less shy child? Or am I now more of a unique person because of my unique name?
When I really think about it, I wouldn’t want my name to be Kristy. I like my name. But when I think about naming my own future child, I will not be naming him or her Osbaldo or Ezgi – they will get a easy to pronounce name with a straight-forward spelling.
Speaking of my name, it’s the the 29th year of the day I was given my name tomorrow (aka it’s my birthday)! To celebrate, I mixed up this Rosemary Gin Fizz from a The Forest Feast cookbook my brother gifted to me this weekend. This Rosemary Gin Fizz is the cousin of my Rosemary Bourbon Citrus Fizz, and equally as delicious!
What about you – has your name shaped who you are?
- 6 tablespoons gin
- 2 teaspoons honey or simple syrup
- 2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
- soda water
- sprigs of Rosemary to garnish
- In a cocktail shaker, add gin, honey or simple syrup, and lemon juice. Fill to liquid line with ice and shake. Strain into 2 cocktail glasses. Add more ice and top with soda water.
- Add a sprig of Rosemary to each glass for garnish.